mothersandsons

You might think I’m nuts, but you are not the first and will not be the last? I refer to my husband’s mom as his first wife, behind his back of course. Why do I feel this way? Well, before you try and answer it, give it some thought. Outside of the bedroom (at least to my knowledge), this man makes whatever his mother’s request is his priority. Now, in theory nothing is wrong with a man doing anything for his mother. He should take care of his mother in every way that does not conflict with his own family. So what’s my beef? I am not his priority. I ask my husband to do certain tasks though often menial, but nonetheless need to be done and it might be months before their accomplished. I usually end up doing them myself, but miraculously he finds the time and energy to do everything else. So here’s what I am throwing out about the relationship between mothers and sons:

(1) On many levels these relationships lack the appropriate boundaries
(2) Men are more afraid of what their mothers will think verses pleasing their wives
(3) Something went terribly wrong with the “Leaving and Cleaving” factor
(4) The need for mothers to “baby” their sons has a “hen pecked” affect on men
(5) The lack of boundaries clouds the perception of both mother and son

What I need from you, the reader: What are your insights? Can I get a witness? Any mothers dare to venture here? Any sons?

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